16 & Pregnant.

I NEVER DO THIS, but I am getting questioned a lot, so I think’s better to get answers from me instead of the several lies that pop up through a google search… The answer is YES, I was on 16 & Pregnant, YES, I was actually 16, and NO, it was not scripted.

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To make a long story short, I lived in Texas with my father, and I became pregnant at 16. Attempted to raise the baby with the father, but things went south so I moved back to New Jersey at 17 with my 5 month old baby, Aydenn. thThe reason I am making this post is not to flaunt that I was on a tv show during my teenage years, but to discuss the hardship. It overall was a great learning experience, but being pregnant as a teenager is NO JOKE. Let’s start with the fact that you’re PREGNANT as a TEENAGER. Your body is still growing and now you’re growing a body in your growing body, and I’m confused. I just know that there was NO ROOM left for me once I was 9 months, and I had to get induced.. ouch. (Induction (in labor) means to use artificial means to assist a mother in delivering the baby). I’M SEVENTEEN AND YOU’RE GOING TO DO WHAT?! Now balance growing, growing a Allie_Mendozahuman, being huge, going to school, having no family support, and breathing. It’s difficult, but I somehow managed to do it. Now, the relationship part, that’s a big part. Whether you’re 17 or you’re 37, we both know that having a baby with your partner is a special thing, but understand that having a baby is A TEST ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP. I’m sure people who don’t have children imagine the beginning to go something like this:

3 IN THE MORNING.
*baby wakes up for the 4th time this night*
Partner1: Oh honey darling, *smiles with excitement*, our little bundle of joy has awakened again. Let’s get up together and take care of the rascal.
Partner2: *rises up from sleep ecstatically* I shall sing a sweet tune while breast feeding because it feels amazing, and you can sway back and forth in harmony.

Yeah, no. Having a baby tests your relationship in many ways. Maturity. Patience. Scheduling. And numerous of other things. Now, be a teenager and do all these things. hospital.jpgIf you can’t do your part as a parent, it can ruin a relationship, and that’s all I have to say about that subject. So I turned into a single 17 year old mother, who was still in school, with a newborn. To this day, I still can’t explain how I was able to do it physically, mentally, etc. Now, it’s not just your personal relationship that a pregnancy can take a toll on, but your family relationships too. On my end, I disappointed my entire family; from parents to aunts and uncles to pets. It was not accepted by anyone. I will not get into details for the sake of feelings, but everyone pretty much has adapted to the fact that I now have two children… well at least I hope. So on the other end, if you recall in my 16 & Pregnant episode, the mother of the other end, did. not. like. me. one. bit. I am pretty good at putting a game face on, but it was very difficultthumbnail to be torn down by someone’s words as a teenager. Being verbally and physically abused was not okay. I’m a kid, you’re an adult. I think I handled the crazy woman pretty well, but this didn’t make my hardship any better. It made things a million times worse. Like I said earlier, I’m from Jersey; I was in Texas, with no family support or even nearby; So do you think I need this extra negative crap? No. A teenager IN GENERAL needs guidance; A PREGNANT teenager needs so much more. The answer is NO.. the mother never contacts me to harass me or to see or talk to Aydenn. Never has, and I’m almost 100% sure she never well. So after the craziness, 5 months later I moved back to New Jersey, and the rest is history.

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I am proud to say that I have gotten through the hardships that I went through as a young teenage mother. I’m not saying anyone can’t do it, but I hope nobody does. Live life for yourself because once you have children it’s not about you anymore. It’s all about them. ❤

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